Today I’m going to talk about four words to make people like you in the first 60 seconds or even in the first few minutes. What you say and how you say it can change your impression, it is not something that you can fake but saying something or being a certain way for that moment. Learn to develop and accentuate your strengths to raise that likability factor to change your impression in the first impression and also make it last in the long run.
Your body language, your knowledge, your emotional state, your clothing all of this tells people about you. The kind of conversation you had, your voice, your tone, your confidence - everything is constantly speaking on your behalf.
There are few mistakes people make that actually impacts the impression. Everyone can inculcate and practice these four words right now and start seeing changes before you want to impress the next person or a group of people you meet.
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1. Stop using the word “HATE” - Hate is a very strong word. Instead of saying, “I hate the word hate.” I can say, “I am not a big fan of the word - hate.” Hate is a negative word, your negative opinion is usually accompanied by equally strongly negative expressions and body language that can create some very strong expressions about you. But there is a better way to communicate your likes and dislikes. Instead of saying, “I hate to wait for people.” Say, “I like punctual people. Being late is not one of the most ideal traits for me.” Here, both sentences are saying the same thing but they are conveying a completely different impression about you.
Try to not use this word and see how you feel when you convey your message with a positive twist.
2. Stop saying “I’m sorry!” - Don’t say “I’m sorry” unnecessarily or multiple times. You might think you sound polite but no. You can sound confident and polite both without using the word “sorry” unnecessarily. You can create a better position for yourself by sometimes not using this word. Did you notice when you use the word “sorry” your body language and the impact of your sentence both change. And then when you say it without “sorry” you sound
more confident. You sometimes need to drive that message home so that you can be taken seriously and you should definitely not be sorry for standing up for yourself.
3. Eliminate those filler words like “ummm” and “like” - Best thing to do when you don’t know what word to use and when you’re about to use any of these filler words is to pause. Notice the difference in not just your speech but your body language when you say the same sentence without the filler words. Every time
when you use filler words, you lose your eye contact with the other person and your eyes start to wander. You lose that connection right there. Instead when you take a pause while speaking you actually get more attention from others. When you see others leaning into you to listen to you, it adds confidence to your words, to your body language and isn’t that the whole intention of communicating effectively. So, eliminate the usage of filler words and you’ll automatically look and sound confident.
4. Stop saying “I think” - In this point, I want you to avoid using passive language. You may have said some of the most powerful confident statements but if you started with “I think” it completely takes away the power of that statement. Avoid using words like “I think” and “I believe.” If you think it then just say it. If you believe it, just say it. You don’t need to add those words to your statement. These words have been used so often that lose their impact when you start a sentence with “I think“ or “I believe.” Try something like, “In my opinion” or “The way I see it.”
Here are the examples :
I think she was was very impressive at the presentation.
The way I see it, she was very impressive at the presentation.
Second sentence sounds confident right?
These are few mistakes that people make knowingly and unknowingly on a regular basis that impacts their impression. I bet some of you’ll be trying to correct these right now. Let me know in the comment section which ones are you the most guilty of. Remember - Your personality is the mix of who you are on the inside and how you present yourself on the outside.
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